A request gives space for our loved one to come towards us; a demand repels immediately to retreat and defend. Issuing demands makes us feel that we are owed something; requests acknowledge the autonomy and free will of all beings, and that no one owes us anything. Requests can be received/heard as demands by those with a wounded heart or fearful inner child, creating the same physiologic effect as a vindictive demand, but offered with an abundance of care and non-violent communication, met by an open mind and heart yearning for connection, an incredible opportunity for growth and healing arrives.

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